Legacy.com

Legacy.com is a for-profit company that helps create a memorial website. Memorial websites can help you celebrate and honor your loved one’s legacy and inspire family and friends to do the same. Visitors can share messages of support and remembrance while connecting with each other. Through shared personal tales and reflections, this lasting online memorial continues the life story of your loved one. The site also offers support and resources on how to deal with grief and what to do and say in the event of a loss.

Forever Missed

This site helps create memorial websites to honor the loss of a loved one. Their easy to use templates allow those with modest computer skills the opportunity to create a beautiful site. A basic memorial website at ForeverMissed.com is free to create and lasts forever. You can also sign up for the unlimited plan or upgrade your free memorial at any time to enjoy unlimited space for photos, songs and video clips, along with access to other great new features.

Remebered.com

This site offers a free online memorial website in memory of your loved ones. Enshrine your photos, memories, and tributes with friends and family. Memorials are free to create and use for 30 days and can be commemorated forever for $9.95. There is never a fee for memorial visitors.

Memorial Facebook Page

If your loved one has an existing page, be sure to report this information to Facebook. Type “Memorialize an Account” under the help menu for instructions. When an account is memorialized, only confirmed friends can see the profile or locate it in the search function. The profile will also no longer appear in the suggestions section of the home page. Friends and family can leave posts in remembrance. In order to protect the privacy of the deceased user, we cannot provide login information for the account to anyone. However, once an account has been memorialized, it is completely secure and cannot be accessed or altered by anyone.

Remembering and honoring your loved one’s memory is an important part of the healing process. There are many ways you can honor them through the AFE Foundation.

• Consider sharing a story about your loved one to be featured on our website.
• Submit their case to our AFE Patient Registry at Baylor College of Medicine. Learn more Submit a Case
• Make a tribute or memorial donation in their name. Donate now.
• Organize a fundraising event in their honor doing something they enjoyed. Visit our Events page to see examples of what others have put together or for more ideas visit here. Please contact us if you are organizing this type of event, we’d like to be help support you and your efforts.

The Compassionate Friends

This organization assists families toward the positive resolution of grief following the death of a child of any age and to provide information to help others be supportive. The organization is national with approximately 600 chapters throughout the country and offers mutual support, friendship and understanding for families grieving the death of a child of any age, from any cause. The Compassionate Friends organization provides information on the grieving process, referrals to local chapter meetings, features an online support community, and publishes a quarterly magazine.

Bereaved Parents of the USA

This national organization has approximately 80 chapters. Designed to aid and support bereaved parents and their families who are struggling to survive their grief after the death of a child. This organization provides information and referrals, newsletters, phone support, conferences and support group meetings and also provides assistance and guidelines in starting support group. Bilingual assistance is available.

The M.I.S.S. Foundation

This international organization has 25 affiliated groups. Founded in 1995 it offers emergency and on-going support for families suffering from the loss a child. The organization provides information, referrals, phone support, newsletters, pen pals, literature, advocacy and online chat room support. In addition they offer information on local group development and support of such groups by listings them on their website.

AGAST International

Founded in 1989 this organization is dedicated to supporting grandparents when a grandchild dies by offering personal support, literature, and has an online message board. They also offer telephone support.

• Two Kisses for Maddy: A Memoir of Loss & Love
• Surviving the Death of a Sibling: Living Through Grief When an Adult Brother or Sister Dies by TJ Wray
• Sibling Grief – Healing After the Death of a Sister or Brother by P. Gill White
• Why Bad Things Happen to Good People by Harold S. Kushner
• Beyond Tears: Living After Losing a Child by Ellen Mitchell
• Comfort: A Journey Through Grief by Ann Hood
• Good Grief by Granger E. Westberg
• How To Go On Living When Someone You Love Dies by Therese A. Rando, Phd
• Death of an Adult Child by Therese A. Rando, Ph.D
  An exceprt from How to Go On Living When Someone You Love Dies (New York: Bantam Books)
• When There are No Words: Finding Your Way to Cope with Loss and Grief by Charlie Walton
• The Five Ways We Grieve: Finding Your Personal Path to Healing after the Loss of a Loved One by Susan Berger
• A Grief Observed by C.S. Lewis

• The Wonderful Gift is a children’s book written by Quinea Postel, who lost her sister to amniotic fluid embolism (AFE). This book introduces a character named Penelope, an angel who walked among us, whose life’s purpose was to deliver “the gift” of a child. It is for children of all ages and can help foster a conversation about the loss of a mother and the birth of a child.
• The Invisible String is specifically written to address children’s fear of being apart from the ones they love. The Invisible String delivers a particularly compelling message in today’s uncertain times that though we may be separated from the ones we care for, whether through anger, or distance or even death, love is the unending connection that binds us all, and, by extension, ultimately binds every person on the planet to everyone else.
• Help Me Say Goodbye: Activities for Helping Kids Cope When a Special Person Dies is an art therapy and activity book for children coping with death. Sensitive exercises address all the questions children may have during this emotional and troubling crisis. Children are encouraged to express in pictures what they are often incapable of expressing in words
• Samantha Jane’s Missing Smile: Coping with the Loss of a Parent by Julie Kaplow, Donna Pincus, and Beth Spiege
• Tear Soup by Pat Schwiebert
• The Saddest Time by Norma Simon

• The Liz Logelin Foundation was established to assist widows and widowers with young families who find themselves in the heartbreaking, catastrophic situation of having lost a spouse, life-partner, and parent. The Foundation’s goal is to financially assist these families as they deal with the loss of their loved ones, and struggle to move forward. The Foundation was established in 2009 by Matthew Logelin. Matt lost his wife Liz in 2008, shortly following the birth of their daughter, Maddy.
• YoungWidow.org is a non-profit organization exclusively dedicated to young widows and widowers and provides online support groups connecting you to others raising small children without your spouse.
• SupportGroups.com is an online support group community with a goal is bring people together around life’s challenges by providing concise, up-to-date information and a meeting place for individuals, their friends and families, and professionals who offer pathways to help

• The Soaring Spirits Loss Foundation (SSLF) was established in May of 2008 to provide a unique peer-based support community for grieving people, with a special emphasis on those who are widowed. Up to now, this segment of the bereaved community has been underserved and often overlooked. SSLF aims to change that by leveraging a social-media-based infrastructure with key programs designed to inspire, inform, comfort, connect, and provide practical help for the bereaved.
• Legacy.com is a for-profit company that helps create a memorial website. Memorial websites can help you celebrate and honor your loved one’s legacy and inspire family and friends to do the same. Visitors can share messages of support and remembrance while connecting with each other. Through shared personal tales and reflections, this lasting online memorial continues the life story of your loved one. The site also offers support and resources on how to deal with grief and what to do and say in the event of a loss.

• Two Kisses for Maddy: A Memoir of Loss & Love
• Why Bad Things Happen to Good People by Harold S. Kushner
• When There are No Words: Finding Your Way to Cope with Loss and Grief by Charlie Walton
• The Five Ways We Grieve: Finding Your Personal Path to Healing after the Loss of a Loved One by Susan Berger
• A Grief Observed by C.S. Lewis
• Comfort: A Journey Through Grief by Ann Hood
• Good Grief by Granger E. Westberg
• How To Go On Living When Someone You Love Dies by Therese A. Rando, Phd

The loss of a spouse can be a traumatic, confusing and lonely time. The loss of a mother during the birth of a child is one of unexplainable grief and will bring a range of emotions that are complex and challenging to manage. What was supposed to be a time of great joy has now become one of the hardest times of your life. It is often hard to know what to do in the wake of such an immense tragedy.

Below is some helpful and timely information for those who have recently lost their spouse or partner to AFE. The following information was compiled from individuals who have also experienced the loss of a spouse from AFE. This is what they found most helpful in the days, weeks and months following their loss. It is not intended as legal advice and it is always recommended you seek professional guidance.

Helpful Steps to Follow After the Loss of a Spouse to AFE

The Helpful Steps to Follow After the Loss of Spouse to AFE Guide will address time sensitive information and offer assistance for the many decisions fathers will face in the wake of losing a spouse or partner. This guide includes links to apply for social security benefits, information on how to manage medical bills, bank accounts, and much more.

• The Wonderful Gift is a children’s book written by Quinea Postel, who lost her sister to amniotic fluid embolism (AFE). This book introduces a character named Penelope, an angel who walked among us, whose life’s purpose was to deliver “the gift” of a child. It is for children of all ages and can help foster a conversation about the loss of a mother and the birth of a child.
• The Invisible String is specifically written to address children’s fear of being apart from the ones they love. The Invisible String delivers a particularly compelling message in today’s uncertain times that though we may be separated from the ones we care for, whether through anger, or distance or even death, love is the unending connection that binds us all, and, by extension, ultimately binds every person on the planet to everyone else.
• Help Me Say Goodbye: Activities for Helping Kids Cope When a Special Person Dies is an art therapy and activity book for children coping with death. Sensitive exercises address all the questions children may have during this emotional and troubling crisis. Children are encouraged to express in pictures what they are often incapable of expressing in words.

• Camp Erin through The Moyer Foundation, is a public, 501 (c) 3 non-profit organization with offices in Seattle, WA and Philadelphia, PA, was founded in 2000 by MLB, World Series-winning All-Star pitcher Jamie Moyer and his wife, Karen. The Moyer Foundation created and funds Camp Erin, the largest network of free bereavement camps in the country for children and teens who are grieving a significant loss of loved one.
• Comfort Zone Camp is for children who have experienced the loss of a family member often become miniature adults before their time. Comfort Zone provides a safe environment where kids can have fun, be around
  people who “get it” and get back to being kids again.
• Camp Courage (Bereavement Camp) facilitates Pre-Camp and Post-Camp Grief Support Groups for the grieving process of children and teens and their families who have suffered the death of a significant person while providing a safe and healing experience.

• The Wonderful Gift is a children’s book written by Quinea Postel, who lost her sister to amniotic fluid embolism (AFE). This book introduces a character named Penelope, an angel who walked among us, whose life’s purpose was to deliver “the gift” of a child. It is for children of all ages and can help foster a conversation about the loss of a mother and the birth of a child.
• The Invisible String is specifically written to address children’s fear of being apart from the ones they love. The Invisible String delivers a particularly compelling message in today’s uncertain times that though we may be separated from the ones we care for, whether through anger, or distance or even death, love is the unending connection that binds us all, and, by extension, ultimately binds every person on the planet to everyone else.
• Help Me Say Goodbye: Activities for Helping Kids Cope When a Special Person Dies is an art therapy and activity book for children coping with death. Sensitive exercises address all the questions children may have during this emotional and troubling crisis. Children are encouraged to express in pictures what they are often incapable of expressing in words
• Samantha Jane’s Missing Smile: Coping with the Loss of a Parent by Julie Kaplow, Donna Pincus, and Beth Spiege
• Tear Soup by Pat Schwiebert
• The Saddest Time by Norma Simon

• Help, Comfort, and Hope After Losing Your Baby In Pregnancy or The First Year by Hannah Lothrop
  Through her own experience with miscarriage as well as through the voices of other parents who have suffered the devastation of their baby’s death, psychologist Hannah Lothrop guides parents through the experience of bereavement, from shock and disbelief to renewal and growth. Thoughtful questions throughout help readers assess their emotions and identify their needs, and an extensive list of resources provides additional sources of support.
• Empty Cradle, Broken Heart: Surviving the Death of Your Baby by Deborah L. Davis.
  The purpose of this book is to let bereaved parents know that they are not alone in their grief. With factual information and the words and insights of other bereaved parents, you can establish realistic expectations for your grief. Empty Cradle, Broken Heart is meant to help you through these difficult experiences by giving you things to think about, providing suggestions for coping and encouraging you to do what you need to survive your baby’s death. Whether your baby dies recently or long ago, this information can be useful to you.
• Grieving the Child I Never Knew By Kathe Wunnenberg
  When the anticipation of your child’s birth turns into the grief of miscarriage, tubal pregnancy, stillbirth, or early infant death, no words on earth can ease your loss. But there is strength and encouragement in the wisdom of others who have been there.
• A Guide for Fathers: When a Baby Dies by Tim Nelson
  This book is for men who experience the death of their infant child. Meant to be a guide during the early hours and days after finding out the news of their baby’s death, the book offers suggestions for communicating with medical caregivers, offering support to their partner, telling the news to other children, making funeral arrangements and taking care of themselves in a time of crisis. It goes on to talk about effective communications during the weeks and months following the loss, going to a support group, returning to the workplace, and the issues surrounding a subsequent pregnancy.
• Something Happened: A Book for Children and Parents Who Have Experienced Pregnancy Loss by Cathy Blanford
  The book addresses the sadness that a child experiences when the anticipated baby has died. The child’s fears and feelings of guilt are addressed as well as other confusing feelings. Perhaps most important, the book includes the family’s experience of going on with life while always remembering their baby. Children who have experienced a death in their family are very reassured by stories of other children who have had a similar experience. It helps them to understand better what has happened in their own family while at the same time offering the comforting knowledge that they are not alone in their feelings.